Seven Years Later: Thoughts on Longevity in Youth Ministry at One Place


Last month marked me being the Middle School Pastor at Church At Charlotte for seven years. I remember hearing a statistic, while studying youth ministry in undergrad, that the average length of tenure in one church for a local youth pastor is 18 months (which ironically is exactly the amount of time I was at the first church I was employed at). Moreover, the average length of time a pastor does youth ministry, regardless of the church is eight years. It’s kind of scary to think that by August I could be considered a youth ministry veteran. There are plenty of factors for why pastors leave youth ministry for “bigger” and “better” things, and plenty of articles written on the matter. Well I would like to give a couple of factors, reasons, and observations I have after doing youth ministry for seven years in one church, and why I hope to do many more right where I am. If you are a youth pastor, aspiring youth pastor, or questioning your calling into youth ministry I hope you find them enlightening and encouraging.

1. It’s Not All Fun and Games… My approach to student ministry is that I’m preparing adolescents for adulthood shaped by Christ. Developmentally as they are transitioning from abstract to concrete thinking they need to be pushed to help encourage that cognitive development. For the most part I approach teaching young teens like I would adults. I imagine this helps curb any desire to do ministry to adults, for feeling unchallenged by teaching in elementary ways.

2. Parents Are Your Greatest Advocates… Parents who have witnessed the positive affect you’ve had on the life of their children become your greatest advocates in the church, especially to young families, even after their children have moved on.

3. Trust and Respect is Key… The quickest way to sabotage the trust of parents and the respect of teens is to try and be one of the student’s friends. You can be their friend later, like when they graduate. In the meanwhile students want to feel safe with you. They feel safe when you look after their safety by having clearly explained boundaries, and steps of discipline that are executed when those boundaries are broken. Students respect you when you’re willing to tell them what they need to hear even if its not what they want to hear. They’re more likely to desire to connect with you as an adult if they respect you as a teen.

4. More Than Just A Pastor to Youth… My youth ministry professor Vince Beresford always used to say, “Your title may say youth pastor but you must know and operate as a pastor to youth and their family.” Becoming more intentional about being a pastor and resource to parents has resulted in some parents seeing me as the primary pastor to their family as a whole. Even by starting this blog and writing posts aimed specifically at parents has resulted in parents seeking my counsel in person more often than ever before.

5. Everybody Knows Your Name… Being intentional about getting involved with some of the other ministries not my own in the church has helped me feel like a part of the life of the church. I’ve taught at Children’s ministry’s VBS and Camp. I’ve been in a Men’s ministry small group. I’ve crashed the Omega’s dinner. I’ve even taken part in a Women’s ministry event. All of those things have given me an opportunity to get to know people who have no connection to the youth ministry.

6. Have Thick Skin… Sometimes being a youth pastor, especially of middle school, means you get treated or at least viewed as being junior varsity. Get over it, and do things in such a way that even if people naturally look down at teenagers they don’t look down on you.

7. The Best Part… The best part of having been at one place for seven years and counting is that all of my former students know where to find me. Moreover, the best part of doing middle school ministry is that even after students move on from your ministry they are still around. Your relationship with them changes, but they know they can still come to you cause you were interested in them at a time in their lives that they were amidst significant change and shrouded in awkwardness.

Conclude

I was fortunate enough to have a youth pastor that did youth ministry for 39 years, the last 21 at one place. The same place that I first started volunteering fourteen years ago. I’m sure his influence has played a large role in me being shaped in such a way that I’ve lasted this long. Hopefully I’ll get to see a few students follow in my footsteps too!

Author: Cedric Lundy

Perpetual Seeker of Solidarity with God through sharing in the life death and resurrection of Jesus The Christ Pastor Communicator Shepherd Coffee Lover Snob and Roaster Sports an but to rational to be a fanatic Native Michigander living in the Carolinas Son Brother Friend Husband Father

3 thoughts on “Seven Years Later: Thoughts on Longevity in Youth Ministry at One Place”

  1. I know Melina looks up to you so much even though she can sometimes be aloof. Her repect for you is huge, as is mine. Thanks for staying longer than 18 months. Now we will never let you leave!!

  2. I actually have nothing to add to that commentary. Every little thing that popped into my head, you covered and said what I would have said. I think there is a stigma of the youth pastor being the JV coach, but I agree that your title really should be something like Pastor of Family Ministries. It is just as important to help guide parents in effective ways to communicate with their children using the bible as the structural backbone, but being able to relate those concepts in a way that can be accessible for current adolescents. There are a lot of good Christians that are bad parents.

  3. Thanks for sticking with us, Cedric. We do appreciate your heart for middle school kids….I believe it’s the most difficult stage in the process of growing up. A constant in their lives in addition to their parents is a HUGE blessing. Especially one who cares about them so much 🙂

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