Form & Function: Helping Kids Understand How to Dress Properly


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Last night at a parent’s seminar I hosted on culture one of the parents asked a question about how to help teenagers make wise and appropriate decisions about clothing. Although I feel I my answer at the time was adequate, on the way home I thought of a better answer. While this may not be an answer a teenager could fully grasp I do believe that it is a good filter for parents to affirm using their parental authority to simply say, “you’re not going out of the house dressed like that”, until they are mature enough to make wardrobe choices without parental guidance. Moreover, I think it’s more constructive than simply saying to your son, “because you look like a clown or a thug,” or to your daughter, “you look like a tramp.”

Form & Function

            The form and function of our body should work in harmony with the form and function of our clothing. The form of bodies comes in all different shapes and sizes. The form of an article of clothing should compliment the form of the body. This principle is why I eventually stopped wearing baggy saggy jeans. It became annoying to be routinely adjusting my jeans, and keep from tearing up the hem of my pant legs under my shoes. It is also the same reason why I haven’t jumped aboard the current trend of wearing slim or skinny jeans. I’m not a big fella by any means but I’ve got a strong and built set of upper leg muscles. Not to mention that… well… let’s just say that skinny and slim jeans do not favor those of us that have a little junk in the trunk. Skinny jeans were made for skinny people and there are way too many people I’ve seen, who are by no means skinny wearing low-rise skinny jeans. That would be the form and function of bodies and clothes in chaos with one another.

I bring up low-rise skinny jeans because we should be advising our young boys about it with the same zeal as we do young ladies in regards to their bust line. Some cleavage is okay, and some cleavage is always wrong! (Sorry, I couldn’t resist the humor in that play on words).

Occasion

This one is not that difficult on the surface. Clothing should also work in harmony with the occasion that we are dressing for. I wore a kilt for the majority of my wedding day which people are always enamored by. The reality is that I married a Scottish woman, in Scotland, and that of the 30 plus men and boys in attendance you would have been oddly out off place if you weren’t in a kilt. In full regalia a kilt is very formal and appropriate for fancy events and special occasions.

When I take my eighth graders on their eighth grade trip to the amusement park Cedar Point, I always advise them to wear shorts with pockets. I don’t particularly understand young teen boys obsession with wearing basketball and soccer shorts everywhere, but stuffing their money in their sock (and then accusing someone of stealing it when their money goes missing) or expecting me to carry their wallet around when they’re four years away from adult independence is just not going to fly on my watch.

Meaning

Last night one of the examples I gave of culture in the Bible, more specifically of culture gone bad is, “The Tower of Babel” story. One of the reasons why it was culture gone bad is because the people who were building it were doing so to define themselves, “let us make a name for ourselves” (Genesis 11.4). As image bearers of the living God and blessed to have dominion and authority over the earth, we should never allow for a piece of the earth, whether it be a tower or a piece of clothing, to have dominion and authority over us. We define the clothing not the other way around.

Conclusion

At the end of the day I go back to what I said last night. Ultimately parents need to be unafraid to exercise their responsibility of stewardship over their children and say no when they see that their children, while under their roof, can’t exercise good judgment on what to wear. You can expect them as in many things to test the boundaries, but don’t be discouraged, be consistent. Be willing to have a conversation from time to time on these matters, as long as the purpose of the conversation is one of understanding, not negotiation. And if they don’t understand then just tell them, “Because I said so.”

Author: Token Confessions

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2 thoughts on “Form & Function: Helping Kids Understand How to Dress Properly”

    1. I honestly find this video a llttie hmm words fear-mongering? Like, most kids are internet savvy enough to know not to go meet up with some random dude they met on facebook by themselves. I work with teens the teens I work with know this stuff! And since when is thinking it is okay to be gay the biggest issue facing teenagers today? I know many mature adult Christians who struggle with that, and many who have come to the conclusion through careful study that Gay monogamous relationships are not offensive to God. Now, whether or not the hatred and contention surrounding this issues will drive teenagers, increasingly exposed to gay peers, away from the Church is another issue entirely. Now there is a sort of postmodern everything everyone thinks is okay thing happening with a lot of youth .that they have learned from the adults around them!! The video was interesting, but most teenagers I know would laugh at this caricature of themselves. Those are my thoughts. Blessings to you, and thanks for maintaining a consistently thought provoking and honest blog!cheers- rachel

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